Top: Kohl's | Skirt: XXI fall 2011 | Necklace: c/o Cheerfully Charmed | Sandals: Target (old)
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If you knew me...and I mean really knew me...
You'd first know that this is one of the days that I actually dressed up this week.
You'd also know that there's one little thing I struggle with on a daily basis.
It's a constant battle and has turned this one little thing into something so much bigger.
Control. I have to have it.
Lately that hasn't been the case and it makes me crazy.
The past few days I feel like I've literally been losing my mind.
With two exams to study for this week and an overflowing inbox, I feel like I'm losing it.
Losing control of my blog and losing control of the direction I want it to go in.
Everytime I open my inbox, I see all the unread ones and feel obligated to answer right away.
I'm losing control of my blog, my emails, but most importantly...my life.
I'm a Type A person to the tee.
I like everything organized, planned out, and absolutely perfect.
I love the control of doing everything myself. I hate leaving things up to others.
I have serious control issues and lately I've been so caught up in wanting to control everything.
I need to keep reminding myself to take a step back.
It's okay to take a break from blogging.
It's okay not to reply to an email until tomorrow.
But most importantly, it's okay to take some time for myself.
It's okay to ask for help and to turn to others who are offering it.
I'm not superwoman and I can't do it all, especially with a full school schedule.
I've considered looking for someone to help out with my blog and e-mails.
However, there is still a huge part of me that doesn't want to give up that control.
When is enough is enough? When do you look to others for help?
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Super cute outfit lady!
ReplyDeleteNow! If it's causing stress and anxiety......that's not good for you! Can you hire a VA?
ReplyDeleteCarly
www.lipglossandcrayons.com
First of all... your bubble necklace is super duper cute.
ReplyDeleteSecond and most importantly... if you don't take care of you then everything else will not go the way you want. I have a bit of a control issue as well, but in my old age I've learned to let go. Things will work out... they may not work how exactly how I want, but the most important thing is that it works out.
I'm thinking of you... just let go, sweets and take care of you. Everything else will fall into place.
You look super cute first of all. Also, I'm just like you... I don't ask for help until I'm about to explode and by then it's often too late. My asking for help often comes in the form of the "UGLY cry" and a complete break down lol. So, I would offer advice that I don't usually take myself, take a step back and don't be afraid to ask for help now :)
ReplyDeleteHope it all becomes less overwhelming for you soon. Try to take some time for yourself. You're right - it can all wait.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, I love the way you took the outfit pics and put them together this week! Great idea.
Your entire outfit is so so cute!
ReplyDeleteAlso, yes! Take time for yourself... nobody will think any differently of you. They'll appreciate the honesty, if anything.
Maybe you need a VA, maybe you need to let things slip a bit. We all are busy, and we understand.
ReplyDeleteyou look great! I love how you did the pictures.
ReplyDeleteTake time for yourself! you deserve it
I LOVE how you cropped those pictures...so clever!
ReplyDeletexoxo
First of all, your outfit is adorable. Second, I had a moment like this yesterday. I was trying to juggle work, my business, and my blog...and somewhere between answering my 500th email of the day and trying to run to the post office before it closed--I wanted to cry. I'm a Type A too, so feeling like I'm losing control is nerve wracking to say the least. I took an hour, shut off my phone, and went to Target. Just taking that time to myself was perfect. I got back in my car, dug into the bag of Dove chocolates I bought, unwrapped that sea-salted caramel goodness and the inside of the wrapper said : "It's OK to slow down." It was just exactly what I needed. Keep on doing what you're doing, girl :)
ReplyDeleteDanielle, I feel your pain. I am absolutely the same way. I have this idea in my head of how things should operate and I hate giving up that control and giving it to others..because maybe...just maybe...they won't love it as much or respect it as much or even do as great a job. Most the time I take on too much responsibility because I know I will do whatever task at 110% and maybe I'm not sure if others will give their very best.
ReplyDeleteThis personality type definitely adds to the stress-o-meter. I would say take a break from it all and do what you MUST do first. Prioritize I guess.
Good luck hon! Let me know if you need anything. ;)
I think at the point you feel like you're losing control, it's time to either back off and unplug for a few days, a week, however long you need. Take a break. Or ask for help! Especially if you are feeling like you're losing the focus of your blog. It would probably benefit you in the long run to take some time to reflect and renew your vision :) We all understand and we'll still be here! If you ever need to talk feel free to email me!
ReplyDeleteI have that exact same necklace and I am loving your outfit :)
ReplyDeleteI totally understand where you are coming from and I am the exact same way. I want things to be done perfectly, be done my way, and to be done right than and there. I hope that you find your solution to this problem whether it be taking a break or asking for help. Good luck and I am always here if you need a friend to talk to, you know that :) Happy Thursday!
First of all, that skirt is so cute!!
ReplyDeleteI know finding the balance is hard, especially bc blogging is something that we really LOVE. if you need any help, please let me know! Or if ya need to vent :)
I love your outfit but I can tell you shoes are old, did you know your feet never stop growing? Just a thought. :)
ReplyDeleteadorable outfit :)
ReplyDeletejust relax, your blog doesn't have to be perfect. it's okay if emails are late. it's okay if you can't always reply to comments. just take a step back and focus on real life because that is what is most important, don't lose your sanity love. xo
Hey girly, lean on God in these times. a blog is a blog... God, family, and yourself....and school come before blogging :) maybe it's time to take a little break and revert to an old school journal for a few weeks? :)
ReplyDeleteI'd totally suggest reading my blog... I talk real about this too :)
xoxo
christine
www.beyoutifulhope.blogspot.com
Great honesty & pure ness in this post. Don't be so hard on yourself. All those things will be there tomorrow & the next day. Enjoy the moment
ReplyDeleteDanielle, try a VA and tell me how it goes! My web buddy Skye Mclaine (Nethering Our Fest Blog) is creating a soon-to-be full-time job out of Virtually Assisting Bloggers. she is a fun, real, sweet, funny gal and I think she'd be a great VA to try! Srsly...
ReplyDeleteoh so this is why you asked me to take you off my email contacts =) its ok. i know the feeling. i actually was just talking to a friend about that feeling of wanting control over something I dont even have time to do. and sometimes you just have to cast those cares on God, girlie. ask him for his help, wisdom in the best step to take. which is where i was today. i hope you find what you need to make it though this question mark =)
ReplyDeleteI usually pick one of two times each week to do all the emails and maintanence. Then I just post blogs when I feel like it and have something to write about it. I've learned that I can't instantly reply to every email, especially since I work full-time and have to respond to THOSE emails instantly..
ReplyDeleteYour outfit is SUPER cute! I'm so glad you opened up and were honest with yourself and us readers. :) As you can see, I'm getting around to reading #DesireToInspire posts two days late...sometimes taking time for myself is just a necessity!
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean about struggling to find balance in everything. I have learned grace in all of it. If I feel the urge to take a day and step away from my email, blog, FB, etc. then I do that. And realize that I need to make sure that my head and heart are in the right place for all of it. I can't be so tied to it all that anything else suffers for it. Praying that God blesses those moments you step away.
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